“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come.” ― Joseph Campbell
You know, I have spent many years wishing I was a thinner, happier woman. I always thought that if I was a size 2, I would magically be happy. Entering my 35th year of life, I realize that is a crock of shit (pardon my language). While it may be hard to support the Health at Every Size idea (because being extremely morbidly obese or extremely underweight is not healthy, I’m sorry), I think that I can support the idea of Happiness at Every Size. So, that is my goal for the new year — Happiness every day. I want to spend every day doing what I can to improve my life, and here are a few of the ways I am going to start:
1. Having a set work schedule, so I am not working every single day
2. Spending more time with my kids in the evenings and on weekends, instead of all of us scattering when we’re in the house
3. Only eating take out twice a month – giving me more money to spend/save and allowing me to cook healthier for all of us
4. This is the year without soda – in the year 2015, I will not buy soda, and I will not have any soda in my house. I’ve done it before, and I can do it again
5. Taking a break from dating sites for at least six months – There is no point, and I have too many other things in my life right now. Sorry boys!
6. Never speaking the name of or bringing up the ex again. I will get my last name back in 2015, and there is no reason to disgrace any conversation with his name again
7. Taking time for myself – whether it is 4 days a week at the gym, my excursion to Texas in June, or just an hour to read a book, I want to take time to do something that is not related to typing on this computer or taking care of day-to-day responsibilities
8. Cutting the cord on people who are no longer relevant to my life – not bad people, just no longer relevant
9. Spending at least one evening a week with a friend or loved one (other than my kids)
10. Being more open to ideas that I may not fully understand
I think that is the main list for now. Some of these may sound odd to you, but I know they are the best ways for me to really begin airing out my life and starting over the way I need to. 2014 has been a craptastic year for me. There are very few things that could have made it worse. I am entering 2015 with perfect love, free of the negativity that has been burying me.
Am I doing the whole “Weight Loss” goal thing this year? Of course I am, but you can read about that on my weight loss blog, From Flabby Tabby to Fab Tabs. But honestly, it’s not about the pounds that are gone or the pounds I still have. It is about being happy. It is time to change the game, and really start the life I was meant to live.